Sometimes, break-ups can be a hard thing and a challenge to accomplish because you care. What are some of the best ways to break up with a person? Depending on how you feel about that person, how the relationship is ending and even how long you guys have been together plays a part in the way you break up, I believe.
If you want to be mean and spiteful, nothing would be worse than a sticky note or text saying “it’s over” without an explanation. Don’t forget that silence speaks volumes so a no call, no text, no show, no reply back to anything can also get the point across. If you care and you want to either remain friends or just have good blood between the two of you then you can sit them down in a private location and explain to them how this isn’t working out and you two should go your separate ways. If you feel that they may get a little hostile if you two are alone, choose a more open or public place to try to decrease the chances of that. Maybe go out for one last dinner or meet up at a coffee shop or something similar to the two.
If you are breaking up after finding out something foul about them or their lack of loyalty to you then cut to the chase and just spit it out and stick to your word. It makes no sense to break up with someone just because you are angry, but you know you are going to come back. If you seem to be in that situation, just take time to gather your thoughts. So if that means that you need some alone time or space, then take it so that you won’t say, or do for that matter, anything you will regret.
I feel that if you have been with someone for a while and it isn’t a bad break up then you can at least do it face to face and give an explanation. If it hasn’t been that long then I don’t think that the physical break up really needs to be utilized. Use your verbal card and say it or write it. With bad breaks up I think the reason is a given and you leaving or simply saying “it’s through” is sufficient enough.
Another thing I would like to add is the after effect. The stories you tell to your friends and family and possibly deciding if it is ok to still talk to their family and friends or even mutual friends. I think the mature thing to do is to not let too many people know your business and to find the most appropriate way to tell them what happen without making the story worse than what it actually is, yet still painting a pretty clear picture. It should be ok to still speak to their friends and family, granted that you didn’t do your ex dirty. There might b stale air between the hi’s and bye’s if that was the case because not everyone can let things go and sometimes friends and family are more defensive than they should be. You may also want to establish an agreement with the family or friends about keeping you and your ex’s life separate; meaning you do not want to hear about their new partner and how happy they are.
Hopefully everything in paradise is going great for you right now and you don’t need to know the best way to break up with a person, but you can always keep this in your make-up bag.
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So here is the scenario. You meet this great person. They definitely have sex appeal, they are doing something with their life, job, own spot, all of everything you are looking for. The only thing they come with that you don’t want….is a relationship! Ok, so now what do you do? Nothing. I wouldn’t advise anyone to get involved with someone who is already in a relationship. They can care less about you and your feelings if they can just mess around on their partner. In my opinion, it is always best to break up with the person you are with, granted that you are unhappy, if you want to start something with someone else. Yes, you could be that special exception to the rule, but I advise you not to take that chance. If it is meant for you two to be together then let fate do its job and place the two of you together when you both are single. Everyone deserves their own relationship, don’t devalue yourself by agreeing to share!
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