The first part of getting back into the dating scene or being your sexy vibrant self is letting yourself know that you are so. There is a saying about envisioning what you want or want to be and then receiving it. The law of attraction states that whatever you think about, you attract to you! (http://healing.about.com/od/lawofattraction/Law_of_Attraction.htm). So, you want to be sexy on the outside, feel sexy within. Stop focusing on things that you now dislike and give attention to what you love; your personality, kind heart, eyes, smile, legs, back and so forth. Once you embrace and love who you are, you can begin to show others that you love yourself and they will see your beautiful confidence blossom.
As soon as you pop your little munchkin out, put them to good use! Is it play time? Lay on your back with your knees up as you lift the baby from the floor to the sky working on your arms and abs. Carry the baby around the house in the car seat alternating arms and raising them up and down targeting your arms. Lay baby on their back now as you place your body over theirs going up and down in a push-up motion while playing with their tummy or making funny sounds. Chase your toddler around the house and work out those leg muscles. Go for a walk around the block a few times with the baby in the stroller or pushing their little wagon or what have you. When the baby is asleep, do squats, lunges, crunches, torso exercises, lift weights or get one of those $10 workout DVD’s. Just a heads up: beware if you have just fed the baby. Shaking or too much motion may not be a good idea. This, of course, is an alternative if you cannot get to a gym and I do NOT recommend working out before you become comfortable with your body and who you are. You have to accept yourself and your body before you can change it.
Little things go a long way. Everyone can’t go out whenever they want and refurbish their wardrobe (I’m jealous of you if you can). So for those of us on a budget, start slow by picking up little items and articles of clothes here and there. Buy a cardigan or blazer. These little pieces are life savers and can dress up any casual attire. Move on to a new pair of jeans that you can wear anytime or a nice blouse that compliments a pair of jeans or slacks. A nice pair of flats or canvas shoes along with pretty accessories can complete any look! You can also get a pair of heels as motivation. You have to get out of the house to wear them and you have to look great when you do so, the heels can push you in that direction.
Ok, so you feel great and you look better. Now, let’s show it off! Let’s plan a date with your love bug. Or let’s leave baby with the love bug and have a night on the town. Drinks, coffee, movies, a lounge, club, dinner, bowling, a musical, game room, or anywhere that’s baby free and has an audience for you to show your sexy off. If you want to make it more intimate for your loved one, check into a hotel or clear the house so that you can set the mood. You can play it simple with dinner, bath or shower, candle lights and massage while you rock a nice panty set, teddy, sexy pj’s, etc. Or you can add a little variety by playing games, giving gifts, leaving little notes around the house about your surprise, going to a strip club together before you strip for them, or doing some role playing, etc. Once you feel that you can be sexy for your mate, sexy enough to get a mate, or sexy for the world, you will have a new found like for yourself and life. It’s all about you lifting your own self-esteem and feeling good about whom you are for yourself and not anyone else. I guarantee you will be a sexy MILF!
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The law of attraction can be found at http://healing.about.com/od/lawofattraction/Law_of_Attraction.htm.