There are some people out there who are not big on affection. They were taught different ways to express how they feel. Buying things, love taps, jokes or simply just giving you the time of day. I’m not saying that time and play fighting isn’t nice, it’s cute and greatly appreciated, but affection would be a bit better. The best way to begin to let someone know that you like affection is to give affection. It’s like respect, treat people how you would like to be treated. Give them lingering, soft hugs, massages, kisses on the neck, hand, and forehead, cuddle, run your finger through their hair or up and down their arm or leg. Little things are great to start with. By doing this, we want to hope that it will be reciprocated. If you have given subtle signs and have done things to them that you would like them to do to you and it doesn’t work, then it is time to get verbal. Tell them what you like. Go further and even tell them what you would like them to do TO you! This may even be seen as a turn on.
On the other side, you need to think about if you can stay with this person if they aren’t affectionate. Some people never catch on, don’t want to catch on and just do things differently. Is the lack of affection a deal breaker? Is that the only way you know that what you have is good? Some people can’t be changed and won’t be changed. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it is something for you to think about. If you really think that he or she needs to change in this area of the relationship and you can’t take it if they don’t, then maybe you’re the one who needs a change. Cater to yourself and find what you are looking for.
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