Honestly, sex is wonderful. I obviously am very into it since a majority of my posts are about it. I do, however, believe that it is not a deal breaker. Your relationship should not be built on sex. If it is, you have a problem. If this is not a relationship, but simply a friend with benefits…then scroll down and read my article “Friends with Benefits, Not a Benefit.” The beautiful thing about someone who doesn’t sex you the way you like is that you can teach them how! There are so many ways to do this and so many great toys out there to help with this issue. Let’s take this one step at a time. If I miss a step, let me know. I am sure I can think of a solution for that too!
Let’s say you are dealing with someone who has a horrible stroke. Before you approach them and flat out call them out on their “down fall”, try coaching them. This is a great opportunity to try new positions. By doing this, you can allow better access into your pleasure zone. So sideways (leg on shoulder, they are stooped down and come under), from the back (back arched, if not your entire front flat down with butt hiked, throw it back please), riding from the front or back or missionary with your shoulders touching your knees and their hands pressing down on your inner thighs as if to flatten you out (Yes!!!) are a few of the positions that allow wonderful access. Once they are in, talk to them in your most sexy voice. Tell them when they are doing a great job, where you want them to move, when you want them to stay and it is ok to grab and squeeze! The same goes for someone who isn’t good at riding. Feedback is your friend.
If buddy is dealing with issues staying hard or he’s cuming too fast, the first thing you guys can do is masturbation. You can play with yourself while they watch and while they are watching you, they can release one. Another tip is oral sex before intercourse. What both of these allow is for the first nut to be released which is usually the quickest. When it comes to staying hard, well there are a couple of things. One thing is a penis ring. The penis ring acts the same as a rubber band acts on your finger except the penis isn’t going to turn purple fast and fall off. The penis ring, when the penis is erect, stops the flow of blood which keeps you erect longer. You can have sex with this on.
I recommended oral sex as a solution, but what if it is the problem? Some people are simply horrible at it and some just don’t really like to do it. While you are getting oral, just like with stroking or riding, give the person feedback and let them know what you like. Harder, softer, nibble, no teeth, more tongue, less jaw, no hands, squeeze, right there, go back, don’t move, and so on and so forth. There is even edible paint and crayons that you can mark on your body to isolate your target areas that they should focus on. I think taste can have an affect too. I have mentioned in previous posts that what you eat affects how you taste (your juices and ejaculate), but it can also be the reason why someone wants to go down. For the vjj, you can play around with having candy in your mouth while you eat it, using edible toppings and lube or drizzle a little juice over them (away from the entrance and nothing citrus. Ain’t nobody got time for that). For the penis, you can actually use the same things with the addition of fruit. For instance, you can use citrus and cut a hole in the middle big enough for the penis. Insert the penis and massage the fruit up and down as your mouth goes up and down the shaft.
I think I touched on all of the problem areas, but please feel free to ask me questions if I missed something. Throughout this entire process, good communication is key and you always have to put forth some effort before you call a quits. It’s not worth giving up a good thing because one part needs to be fixed….you feel me?
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