In a perfect world, we probably all want the same things in a relationship. Someone who will love us and only us, treats us right, is attentive and can provide for us..amongst other things. When does it shift from wanting someone who can provide for you and someone you can live off of? When getting into a relationship, should you expect the other person to have more than you?
Putting everything aside, I think not. You cannot request more than you can give because if we all had the same mentality then someone would always come up short handed. Although I suggest not requiring someone to have more than you, that is not to say that they need to come to the table empty handed. I just think that the first things that need to be addressed aren’t materialistic. You should always look for something in someone that will compliment you and give you what you cannot give yourself. No one wants a leech though so you should be able to give something back in return.
Putting everything aside, I think not. You cannot request more than you can give because if we all had the same mentality then someone would always come up short handed. Although I suggest not requiring someone to have more than you, that is not to say that they need to come to the table empty handed. I just think that the first things that need to be addressed aren’t materialistic. You should always look for something in someone that will compliment you and give you what you cannot give yourself. No one wants a leech though so you should be able to give something back in return.
Granted, having someone who can help you out financially and buy you everything your heart desires would be wonderful! Who doesn’t like to be spoiled? But you should write down your list of requirements and think about what is a deal breaker and what is negotiable. For instance, because you have a master’s degree, does your significant other have to have one as well? If you bring in six figures, is it ok if they are only bringing in close to five? What about kids, vehicle, residence, the way they dress or how their hair is? Now compare all of that to their loyalty, honesty, attentiveness, humor, sensitivity, patience, beliefs, values, morals, religion and so forth. Organize your standards by importance and carefully think about what really matters. I think that a mature mind will see the things that can be negotiated or thrown away all together. If not, maybe you’re just not at that stage in your life where you can see the things that matter more. By no means am I telling anyone to settle, I’m just saying be realistic and think about what you really need in a significant other. Unfortunately, fairy tales only exist in films and on paper.
Yours truly,
SP
****These photos were borrowed from http://www.zazzle.com/warning_high_maintenance_hat-148760977613526438 and http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158519-whiskey-beach -couple
Yours truly,
SP
****These photos were borrowed from http://www.zazzle.com/warning_high_maintenance_hat-148760977613526438 and http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158519-whiskey-beach -couple
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