You know, a wise guy once told me that a man will only do what you require of him to do. This means that, for instance, if you require him to open doors for you from the jump, he will. If you require him to call you every night, he will. If you require him to respect you like the lady you are, then he will. I don’t want to focus on just men because, if you really think about it, a woman would do the same things. You require her to call you when she has made it where she is going, she will. You require her to have the house clean, then she will. If you require her to respect you like the man you are, then she will.
I say all of this to say, you guessed it, if you want your lady or man to treat you how you want to be treated or meet your standards, then require it of them. There is no reason why you should stay anywhere you are not happy nor, should you tolerate disrespect, especially inside of a relationship. The one thing I will note is that, this has to be made clear in the beginning. You can’t be eight months in and expect someone to change after you have allowed something to go on for so long. You set out what you expect of your partner in the beginning and, if they agree, then you have your match.
No one deserves to be treated like a child, undermined, ignored, made to feel unappreciated, or looked over within a relationship. The constant arguing, being talked to as if you are getting on their nerves, and lack of respect, should not be tolerated. You have to address it as soon as it happens and make sure your man or woman understands that you will not have any of that. You are their significant other, not their friend, child, or worse enemy. You did not piss in their face and call it rain!
At the same time, do not give anyone a reason to treat you this way. The constant bickering, complaining, picking, and dumbfoundness (making up words if you don’t mind) has to stop. People do get annoyed and have pet peeves so it isn’t totally unexpected for them to begin to want to be away from you, distance themselves or even ignore or talk down to you. Don’t give them a reason to. And if this is brought upon without reason, you do not stand for it! Address the issue head on before it gets worse.
You were not put here to be anyone’s door mat or toy. Require the utmost respect within your relationship and you will receive it. Set your cards out and let them know all of what you want so that there will not be any surprises or sudden changes. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed.
With Love,
SP
***This picture was borrowed from http://www.doseofchange.org/?p=121. Please click on the photo to be redirected to the site.
I say all of this to say, you guessed it, if you want your lady or man to treat you how you want to be treated or meet your standards, then require it of them. There is no reason why you should stay anywhere you are not happy nor, should you tolerate disrespect, especially inside of a relationship. The one thing I will note is that, this has to be made clear in the beginning. You can’t be eight months in and expect someone to change after you have allowed something to go on for so long. You set out what you expect of your partner in the beginning and, if they agree, then you have your match.
No one deserves to be treated like a child, undermined, ignored, made to feel unappreciated, or looked over within a relationship. The constant arguing, being talked to as if you are getting on their nerves, and lack of respect, should not be tolerated. You have to address it as soon as it happens and make sure your man or woman understands that you will not have any of that. You are their significant other, not their friend, child, or worse enemy. You did not piss in their face and call it rain!
At the same time, do not give anyone a reason to treat you this way. The constant bickering, complaining, picking, and dumbfoundness (making up words if you don’t mind) has to stop. People do get annoyed and have pet peeves so it isn’t totally unexpected for them to begin to want to be away from you, distance themselves or even ignore or talk down to you. Don’t give them a reason to. And if this is brought upon without reason, you do not stand for it! Address the issue head on before it gets worse.
You were not put here to be anyone’s door mat or toy. Require the utmost respect within your relationship and you will receive it. Set your cards out and let them know all of what you want so that there will not be any surprises or sudden changes. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed.
With Love,
SP
***This picture was borrowed from http://www.doseofchange.org/?p=121. Please click on the photo to be redirected to the site.
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