You decided to be with or stay with this cheater, addict, drop out or unemployed person. You had the choice to walk away once you found everything out. There is no need to throw it in their face when you get the chance. There is no need to bring it back up in arguments. Cut out the searching and counting and monitoring. Instead, let it go. Trust them. There was a reason why you decided to stay. I am not one to tell another soul when to leave. I know my limits and you should establish yours. I will only encourage the end of a relationship when it gets abusive or affects your health. So if you have acknowledged this person’s flaws, accepted them, said you will deal with it and make it work, then do it. There is no point in dwelling over something you cannot fix or change. Instead, help that person to be better. Give them a reason to want to improve themselves or change their ways. You cannot hold on to another person past and expect things to work out in the future. I am not telling you to continue on with disregard. No, be smart about your decisions, but understand what you have signed up for. Some things need to be let go of and if you can’t let it go then let it go! The past is the past. It cannot be undone. Work on making a better future.
All the best,