Every year on December 31st, social media is plagued with the same stats. “Next year will be my year,” “I’m done with such and such. They can kick rocks and play in traffic,” or my favorite “New year, new me.” Then, by January 7th half of my news feed and timeline are back to their old ways and complaining by August about how ish just isn’t right. Well the first issue is commitment! I have no problem with people saying positive things about themselves and the upcoming year. By all means, claim it! My problem is the lost of drive, enthusiasm and motivation that you started out with. Hopefully today, New Year’s Eve, I can provide tips to help accomplish your new year’s resolutions and possibly some things to add to your resolutions.

    Valentine’s Day is coming, Valentine’s Day is coming!!!! What are you going to do? Your options are endless. Even if you are broke or don’t have time, there is still a way for you to make that day, and night, a special one. You don’t celebrate this day? Feel that you show love every day to your partner and this day is unnecessary? Well, to each it’s own. Just look at this as a day to show your partner even MORE why you love and appreciate them! Why not have an excuse to get closer to your baby? You’re afraid the kids will get in the way? Now is the time to make plans to do something with the kids (arts and crafts, family dinner), or to find a baby sitter! Then again, the risk of getting caught makes things all the better (but seriously, make sure they are like in the deepest sleep ever).

    There are always the basic things that you can do. Going out to eat, movies and maybe bowling or something. Everyday things are cool to me as long as you are giving quality time with your sweetie. Here are a few ideas that a friend and I came up with to help you have a very memorable experience!
1) Let’s start the day off easy. Maybe going to the mall and taking photo booth pictures. It’s cute and a great memorabilia to have as a memory of this day especially if it is the first one you guys will be spending together. Let’s keep the fun rolling with lazer tag, go carting or shooting paint balls. Want to go out to for dinner or dessert? Great idea! Let’s just upscale it a little bit. Let’s try places you have to make reservations at or a different cuisine; having to dress up makes it a little more special too.  For dessert a nice ice cream parlor or fondue restaurant would be nice. There are also chocolate restaurants that you could try out. Just type that into Google  or any search engine and it will pull up nice chocolate restaurants in your town where you can have everything made with chocolate, even the drinks! We can finish this with a nice night at home enjoying each others company whether inside or outside of the bed.

2) Don’t want to leave the house? No problem! First rule, electronics go off. No social sites, or communicating with friends. Remember, this day is for you to give quality time and attention to your partner. You can cook dinner for them (or you guys can cook together). Set the table with candle lights and have a nice dim-lit meal together. To add to this night, days before, you can start a bowl of wishes. Every day you both add wishes to the bowl; things that you would like your honey to do to or for you. That night after dinner, pull out the bowl for dessert and try to fulfill as many wishes from the bowl as possible. This doesn’t have to be just for VDay. Add to the bowl all year round and when you want to add a little spice to the bed room, pull from the bowl and fulfill a wish!
3) Staying with the house and no electronics theme, let’s make a transformation and turn your living room into a park. There are a few ways we can pull this off. You can start that morning by leaving little notes around the house in places you know your boo has to go; notes with sweet sayings, quotes and song lyrics or even riddles and poems. Something that says to expect more later on. That evening, have all the big lights off leaving only candles or lamps on and place more note cards with directions on them like “take off your clothes”, “go to the bathroom and dive in”, “meet me for dinner after your bath”, “come to the room for a little show and tell” and so forth. These notes can lead to either a night of fun and games in the bed room or a night in the park. While they are in the bathroom, move all of the furniture out of the way and lay down a blanket. Prepare simple picnic foods with a twist like homemade chicken salad instead of a cold cut sandwich, hand dipped chocolate covered fruit instead of cut up apples and oranges, mimosas instead of regular apple or orange juice. You can even add in homemade desserts or have a fondue pot going. This can be just what it is, a picnic in the park where you play games (sexually targeted or not) or we can make this a movies in the park where you alter the food a little to be more movie appropriate and you guys can spend the night cuddled under the blanket watching movies until they watch you.

4) Don’t want to stay at home or there isn’t any privacy there? Take it to the hotel or plan a nice little getaway out of town. Maybe to the mountains, a log cabin, the beach or if you are near by a Sybaris, check in there. Take this as a chance to act out! Get comfortable and do what you wouldn’t do at home. Role play, try new positions, add in more foreplay, and just be free!! You don’t know when this chance is coming again so take advantage and do all of the things you have wanted to do. Remember, this day is still electronic free, so that means you can expect no interruptions. Have a day full of enjoying each others company, spirit, kisses and possibly bodies!

5) Maybe you guys are a busy couple and you barely have time as it is to spend with one another. Well set aside this day as the day to make it all up. If you’re too tired to roll around, that’s fine too. Order in some food, catch a good movie, and give one another massages and baths. If you want to roll around, play tempting sex games like (my favorite) teasing your lover by touching, feeling and pleasing them. They aren’t allowed to touch you and the first one to get seriously aroused first loses……but everyone is always a winner.

6) Big heads up!!! Valentine’s Day IS a game day! There are two basketball games ( Heat vs OKC @8pm et and Clippers vs Lakers @10:30pm et) and 6 hockey games (Islanders vs Rangers, Toronto vs Carolina, Washington vs Tampa, Montreal vs Florida, Phoenix vs Nashville and Colorado vs Minnesota). Don’t let this get you down. We can make it a game day with the boo! Get tickets to the game if you can. Give them gifts centered around the sport and their favorite team: jerseys, hats, hoodies, autographed items, etc. Can’t make it to the game? You two can spend it in front of the tv watching it together and eating tailgate food. On commercials or after the game, ask one another trivia questions about the sport or team. You get it wrong, you have to either strip or give up a sexual favor! If you are not a sports fan, I advise you to look some things up before this day so that you won’t ask questions while the game is on and you won’t lose…unless of course you want to!

7) Ok so what if you work nights? We can either spend this holiday before the day, after the day, or earlier that day. If earlier that day, you guys can spend time having breakfast in bed or go to breakfast, brunch or lunch. It would be nice to maybe visit a museum, aquarium or even an art exhibit. Stir fry is good for lunch and it’s never too early for ice cream. It’s still not too late to check into a hotel and spend the day getting cozy. Just keep in mind that you will probably want a nap that afternoon before you take off for work.

8) Do you remember your first date? Well relive it! You can substitute the first date for the most memorable one if you’d like. It would make it even more special if you have something from that date, you can get it framed or laminated and present it to them on the date. Don’t feel like a repeat? Try to remember a date they mentioned they would like to have or take you on. Now would be the perfect time to give them what they have been wanting!

9) Ok, ok, ok I hear you! You are single and ready to mingle! Great, have a single +1 party. Invite every single person you know. Ask them to bring a date that they have never been involved with and have no emotional attachment to. This party will give all of the singles a chance to mingle with other single people and possibly find a valentine for next year! If not, parties are fun anyway so why not have one?

10) So these are just other random ideas and suggestions I had left that you can mix and match with and possibly make your own date with. Let’s start with gifts. It is still ok to give the traditional candy, card and flowers. Add in the teddy and possibly a gift card to their favorite store, jewelry, accessories, clothing, sexy underwear, shoes (here are sneaker release dates if you so happen to date a sneaker head http://jordanreup.com/jordan-release-dates and http://sneakernews.com/release-dates/  ) hats, video games, cologne and perfume. Feel free to refer to the Christmas guide below for other add on's. Other ideas are a horse and carriage ride, to go and explore your city as if you were a tourist and ride along with a tour guide learning about what has always been around you, do a photo shoot together or apart, make them a calendar, go to the car show (in Chicago Feb 9-18), go beer or wine tasting (great idea from Cosmo magazine), go to an art show, poetry lounge or nice jazz spot. You could also have a 14 days of love where, starting February 1st, each day leading up to Valentine’s Day, you can give your loved one a gift or sexual favor. Get creative and make them a gift. Amongst the billions of things you could possibly make, how about a pleasure pack using a gift bag, basket or any cute container. Fill it with candy, a stuffed animal, sex toys and games, body paint, candle wax that turns into massage oil when heated, hand cuffs, bondage tape, coupons, a Kama Sutra book, edible sex accessories, dice, body butter, exotic candy, and you can throw in some of the other gift suggestions mentioned before along with some balloons.

    That’s about all of the suggestions I can think of at this moment, but I’m sure you guys can elaborate on these ideas. Oh, and if you don’t drink, I have some nice mock-tail (fake cocktail) recipes that I think you would enjoy. Just ask. If you have any questions about any of this, just ask and I will be more than happy to elaborate, name drop on restaurants, and even give away some delicious recipes! Remember that although you should show your partner love every day, this day is about having fun and giving quality time!
   
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OH NO!!!! Christmas is right around the corner and you still haven’t gotten your boo’s gift and you have no idea what it will be!! Don’t worry. Whether your money is short, you’re stuck on what to get, or you completely waited to the last minute and can’t get them what you really wanted, it’s ok. Here are some great suggestions that they will be sure to be satisfied with and you can still save face!

Honestly, men aren’t as hard to shop for as we think. They are fairly easy to please and everyday necessities can be presented nicely to make it seem like more thought went into it than it actually did. Here is a run-down:

Underwear-boxer briefs, socks, undershirts, etc. Guys can always use replacements.
Cologne-too simple? Beef it up with a bundle. Cologne, body wash, deodorant, shavers, aftershave, shaving cream and the likes are great items to put side by side in a nice basket, shaving case or even a neat organizing cube!
Video games- as much as I hate it, guys love them! If they haven’t gotten the latest already, go ahead and grab the NBA2k13, Madden13,BO2,MWF4 and all the other games they seem to be addicted to.
You could never go wrong with these knickknacks and remember that a bundle always makes it seem like you did more than you actually did! Back packs, messenger bags, wallets, liquor, cigars, lighters, flasks, shaving kits, watches and cufflinks.

I know, I know. Women are so picky and difficult to shop for, but if you have been paying attention all year, then this should be a breeze!  It’s key to remember that with women (real ones at least) it is the thought that counts so don’t worry if you don’t spend a million dollars, these items are sure to get you on the nice list for Christmas night…..or naughty *wink*

Accessories- you can never go wrong with jewelry. There is always a need to accessorize and jewelry plays a big role in this. You can also look toward hats, gloves and scarves. Do one better and get infinity scarves so that she can wear them after the winter season. Don’t forget the purses and clutches. You can use them to hold the jewelry and other bundle ideas!
Perfume- girls love to smell good. This isn’t enough? Throw in some bath essentials like soap, body wash, lotion, deodorant, bath salts, scrubs, and the likes. Take this idea and run with it by doing a makeup/beauty kit or hair essential kit. Put them in travel bags, baskets, purses, or cute containers.
Getting the idea? Well don’t forget these little helpful add ons like stuffed animals,  jewelry boxes, lingerie, wine baskets, cocktail kits or gift cards to her favorite stores *coughs* {Victoria Secret }.


Some things that are fine to get box sexes are always shoes, clothes, hats, pajamas, jackets and coats, slippers, gift cards, phone and electronic accessories, iPod doc, portable Bluetooth speakers, a phone, shot glasses, game or concert tickets (or gift certificates to redeem on purchasing sites like stubhub.com), sunglasses, fashion glasses, robes, and even bed sets.
Want to make it special? Get a room and please your mate! Massages, bubble bath or dual shower, nice dinner, and a pleasure pack! I'm talking oils, sauces, fruit, games, wax, cuffs, tape, rope, whip, lingerie, or no clothes at all...you get the picture. Cash not right? work with what you have, be creative. Get the house to yourself or be risky and wait until everyone is asleep (or awake). Cook a nice meal, give a massage, take a bath, light some candles, make up your own games and so forth. You guys both win in the end and its tons of fun!
I know time is ticking, but you aren’t out of luck….if you get moving now!

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