With all of the celebrity marriage controversy and young adults I know of who are in a tight spot within their marriage, I have begun to wonder why people are getting married today. Is it for money? Just to say you did it? Sex? Tax write off? Children? Seriously, where has the value gone? What grounds do individuals stand on when they come together as one that helps support the reason why they want to become a union? Do some people see this as a fad? Is marriage simply the new black? Whatever it may be that some people choose to take this leap on, it is depreciating the value of marriage.
The biggest problem being portrayed in the media, and most likely in real life, about marriage is infidelity. People stepping out as if they have no obligations to anyone and are still single, still one. I’m sorry, but your individuality left a long time ago. It is a “we” now. You have an obligation to be loyal and faithfully committed to someone. If you have an urge to cheat then you probably shouldn’t have gotten married. I know it’s probably a little too late for this realization, but I am sure the urge did not come out of nowhere and has more than likely been something you have been battling for a while. You should never lose that battle. Stepping out, sleeping around, or finding emotional comfort in someone outside of your spouse is a no-no. It is important to communicate with your spouse and let them know what they need to do to prevent you from wandering away. If it is a problem with self and not with your spouse, then I suggest seeking treatment.
I’ve also noticed how these seemingly happy couples can be so easily broken. I understand that every relationship has rough spots and it is not all unicorns and rainbows, but you choose to marry the person who you want to go through hell and high water with. It should take more than financial difficulty, slandered names and defamed characters to break up your home. There may be other issues and those issues can be a make or break type of thing, but if something can be fixed then fix it. All relationships are about compromise. Making your spouse happy should make you happy. Both of your gratification should come from making the other happy and as long as there is a compromise and an effort to make the other happy then one can never be unhappy and should not be able to lose themselves.
Marriage is supposed to be a time in two people lives after they have gone through a period where they have closely evaluated the relationship they have with the other person and they decide that what is good about that person is great and what is bad about that person is doable. If your significant other does something intolerable before marriage, and repeatedly at that, don’t expect things to change too much just because a piece of paper was signed and it was celebrated. Marriage should not be based on anything physical. Love is intangible, though it can be represented by tangible things. Marry this person because your life will be hell without them. Marry them because, while you are complete without them, you are happier with them. Choose the one person in life who you want to go through both joy and depression with. Life isn’t always the best, but it is much easier to trot through when you are doing it with a friend, a best friend. Think very carefully about who you marry and why you marry. Honor those vows you will take or have taken before your God and witnesses. Those words have meanings beyond playground love and should not be taken lightly. If money was invisible, a body had no definition and your home was simply a heart, where would you want to be?
Think about it,
SP
I’ve also noticed how these seemingly happy couples can be so easily broken. I understand that every relationship has rough spots and it is not all unicorns and rainbows, but you choose to marry the person who you want to go through hell and high water with. It should take more than financial difficulty, slandered names and defamed characters to break up your home. There may be other issues and those issues can be a make or break type of thing, but if something can be fixed then fix it. All relationships are about compromise. Making your spouse happy should make you happy. Both of your gratification should come from making the other happy and as long as there is a compromise and an effort to make the other happy then one can never be unhappy and should not be able to lose themselves.
Marriage is supposed to be a time in two people lives after they have gone through a period where they have closely evaluated the relationship they have with the other person and they decide that what is good about that person is great and what is bad about that person is doable. If your significant other does something intolerable before marriage, and repeatedly at that, don’t expect things to change too much just because a piece of paper was signed and it was celebrated. Marriage should not be based on anything physical. Love is intangible, though it can be represented by tangible things. Marry this person because your life will be hell without them. Marry them because, while you are complete without them, you are happier with them. Choose the one person in life who you want to go through both joy and depression with. Life isn’t always the best, but it is much easier to trot through when you are doing it with a friend, a best friend. Think very carefully about who you marry and why you marry. Honor those vows you will take or have taken before your God and witnesses. Those words have meanings beyond playground love and should not be taken lightly. If money was invisible, a body had no definition and your home was simply a heart, where would you want to be?
Think about it,
SP
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