There is a candy store. You tried this one piece of candy, only one of its kind, and you absolutely love it. It does for you what no other piece of candy has. It fulfills your taste, doesn’t get stuck in your teeth, no bad after taste, no color change on your tongue and it is even good for you. Unfortunately, it does not quench your curiosity. You still want other pieces of candy despite loving this one so much. So the candy poses the option to you that you can have this candy, one of a kind, for the rest of your life or have the option to dip and dab into any of the other candies that does not satisfy you in the same way that this one does, but presents a multitude of varieties. What is your decision?
While the option of having dibs on anything in the candy store can be very tempting, why not take the offer of that one piece of candy that embodies all you want and work on quenching your thirst for more? What am I getting at? If you have someone in your life who makes you feel like no one else has ever been able to make you feel, then why let this person go just to be able to parlay for the rest of your life? Many of you are probably looking at this in a way that I generally would. It is better to leave than to cheat, and I still agree with this idea. I fully support it. At the same time, this is selfish, but selfish doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. In fact, both options presented are selfish.
Option one: One person for the rest of your life. Thinking solely about yourself, why wouldn’t you want to wake up to the one person who compliments you? This one person who has created a feeling inside of you that you’ve never felt. It’s warm, comfortable, soothing, loving, caring, encouraging, and is just like grandmas home cooking on a Sunday evening when everyone has come to visit. Who wouldn’t want to keep this feeling going? The only thing wrong is that it is one person. Maybe it is the fear of having to decide to stay with this one person for the rest of your life. You’re afraid of things changing or missing out on something else because you decided to choose one and not many. If it’s anything life has taught me, it’s that “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt knew that fear was the only thing that could hold us back from prospering, succeeding and moving forward in any aspect of our life, including advancing in love.
Option two: Opportunity to date different people for the rest of your life. Being selfish can mean being greedy and thinking of the option to date many people and not one for life, is pretty greedy. Letting your appetite supersede what you need or can handle can put you in a losing position. You may lose out on the one person who will ever truly love you and fulfill you. While it is not considered selfish to leave before cheating, it is selfish to leave this person considering that you both have grown fond of one another and have possibly thought of happily ever after with one another. You didn’t consider the heartbreak you would cause and they would endure, nor the scar that it may leave and the affect it would have on their future relationships. You only thought about yourself and what you would be missing if your options were limited to one and not many.
I’m not saying that dating isn’t good, nor am I against a person leaving a relationship that doesn’t work for them. The only thing I caution is missing your beat. Things are going well and then claustrophobia gets the best of you. I’m not sure that love will be waiting for you down the line or that you will be complacent with the single life forever, but it is something to really consider. Whether it is a fear or just a selfish mindset, just remember that while you are busy chasing a diamond, you may be missing out on a treasure.
Think about it,
SP
Option one: One person for the rest of your life. Thinking solely about yourself, why wouldn’t you want to wake up to the one person who compliments you? This one person who has created a feeling inside of you that you’ve never felt. It’s warm, comfortable, soothing, loving, caring, encouraging, and is just like grandmas home cooking on a Sunday evening when everyone has come to visit. Who wouldn’t want to keep this feeling going? The only thing wrong is that it is one person. Maybe it is the fear of having to decide to stay with this one person for the rest of your life. You’re afraid of things changing or missing out on something else because you decided to choose one and not many. If it’s anything life has taught me, it’s that “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt knew that fear was the only thing that could hold us back from prospering, succeeding and moving forward in any aspect of our life, including advancing in love.
Option two: Opportunity to date different people for the rest of your life. Being selfish can mean being greedy and thinking of the option to date many people and not one for life, is pretty greedy. Letting your appetite supersede what you need or can handle can put you in a losing position. You may lose out on the one person who will ever truly love you and fulfill you. While it is not considered selfish to leave before cheating, it is selfish to leave this person considering that you both have grown fond of one another and have possibly thought of happily ever after with one another. You didn’t consider the heartbreak you would cause and they would endure, nor the scar that it may leave and the affect it would have on their future relationships. You only thought about yourself and what you would be missing if your options were limited to one and not many.
I’m not saying that dating isn’t good, nor am I against a person leaving a relationship that doesn’t work for them. The only thing I caution is missing your beat. Things are going well and then claustrophobia gets the best of you. I’m not sure that love will be waiting for you down the line or that you will be complacent with the single life forever, but it is something to really consider. Whether it is a fear or just a selfish mindset, just remember that while you are busy chasing a diamond, you may be missing out on a treasure.
Think about it,
SP
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