There seems to be this phase between, let’s say college and 35 years old. A phase where you become so consumed with your career or school or what not that you begin to neglect your personal life. If you aren’t one of the lucky ones who finds a sweetheart or gets married in the midst of this phase, then you are probably one of the ones who would just like their itch scratched every once in a while without attachment. A scratcher that is disposable. Are you catching my drift?
Often times with one night stands, people screw it all up and it becomes more than a one night stand or a topic that is brought up later because the two knew one another or kept in touch. If you are looking for friends with benefits or a booty call, that’s cool, but there are rules to every game.
**********FULL DISCLAIMER- I AM ENCOURAGING WHAT YOU MAY CONSIDER OUT OF CHARACTER ACTIVITY**********
Random person or someone you don’t care to see again: This may come easier for guys than girls, yeah, I am stereotyping. For one night stands, the point is to literally have one night of total sexual liberation. We don’t want to make this person our significant other or fantasize about the future with them. We want to get in and get out. No point in complicating a friendship with sex when there are other alternatives. That is, unless you enjoy the “what are we?” questions.
Just a physical attraction: With friends with benefits, you want someone you can chill with, possibly date and have casual sex without the attachment. This requires you getting to know them a bit. With a one night stand, you just need to be physically attracted. The only other questions you may want answered are do you have an STD/I, do you have condoms, and are you paying for the room? Let’s keep this as simple as possible.
Be bold: Look, this isn’t the time to play hard to get or wait for them to approach you. If you see something you want, go and get it. Closed mouths don’t get fed. Insert other cliché quotes that mean, “go and get it.” Approach him/her and lay it out. I mean, don’t go up to the person and ask them to drop their drawls. We can be a bit classier. Feel them out and see if they are on the same thing that you are and make your move. Mission: get the drawls!
Get your nut by any means necessary: I am not encouraging you to just hoe around. Eventually, I am hoping you will find someone who will play a more constant role in your intimate life, but until that time comes around, you get what you came for. If shorty can’t get you right, then you get yourself right. Put yourself in the more dominant position and take control reaching your own climax. I am encouraging you to be selfish and get yours regardless if they get theirs!
No communication afterward: The sex was hopefully just what you needed. With any luck, it will last you a while and you won’t need a fix anytime soon. Don’t exchange numbers, names, or social media handles. Don’t leave a business card, an email, smoke signal or send a pigeon in the middle of the night with a kinky note. It was what it was and is what it is. Go back to work or school until you are ready for something a little more serious.
Hey, we all need some relief every now and then and for some, it is sexual. Have fun and enjoy life. Get all of your hoeing out before you settle down. If you are going to have one night stands, my top rule above these five is to stay safe and stay strapped. Get checked frequently and only spread love.
Happy Sexing,
SP
**********FULL DISCLAIMER- I AM ENCOURAGING WHAT YOU MAY CONSIDER OUT OF CHARACTER ACTIVITY**********
Random person or someone you don’t care to see again: This may come easier for guys than girls, yeah, I am stereotyping. For one night stands, the point is to literally have one night of total sexual liberation. We don’t want to make this person our significant other or fantasize about the future with them. We want to get in and get out. No point in complicating a friendship with sex when there are other alternatives. That is, unless you enjoy the “what are we?” questions.
Just a physical attraction: With friends with benefits, you want someone you can chill with, possibly date and have casual sex without the attachment. This requires you getting to know them a bit. With a one night stand, you just need to be physically attracted. The only other questions you may want answered are do you have an STD/I, do you have condoms, and are you paying for the room? Let’s keep this as simple as possible.
Be bold: Look, this isn’t the time to play hard to get or wait for them to approach you. If you see something you want, go and get it. Closed mouths don’t get fed. Insert other cliché quotes that mean, “go and get it.” Approach him/her and lay it out. I mean, don’t go up to the person and ask them to drop their drawls. We can be a bit classier. Feel them out and see if they are on the same thing that you are and make your move. Mission: get the drawls!
Get your nut by any means necessary: I am not encouraging you to just hoe around. Eventually, I am hoping you will find someone who will play a more constant role in your intimate life, but until that time comes around, you get what you came for. If shorty can’t get you right, then you get yourself right. Put yourself in the more dominant position and take control reaching your own climax. I am encouraging you to be selfish and get yours regardless if they get theirs!
No communication afterward: The sex was hopefully just what you needed. With any luck, it will last you a while and you won’t need a fix anytime soon. Don’t exchange numbers, names, or social media handles. Don’t leave a business card, an email, smoke signal or send a pigeon in the middle of the night with a kinky note. It was what it was and is what it is. Go back to work or school until you are ready for something a little more serious.
Hey, we all need some relief every now and then and for some, it is sexual. Have fun and enjoy life. Get all of your hoeing out before you settle down. If you are going to have one night stands, my top rule above these five is to stay safe and stay strapped. Get checked frequently and only spread love.
Happy Sexing,
SP
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