Have you guys ever wondered how parents know how to be parents? I mean, we all know the basic things to do for a child. Clothe, feed, bathe, play sometimes, etc. What about other things like knowing not to forget your child in the grocery cart or knowing not to roll over on them while sleeping. Where does the patience come from? How do you know what decisions to make? Is it possible at all to be a great parent if you weren’t raised by one? Absolutely. You know what you want to provide for your child and how you want them to be cared for, so you do it. Is it possible to be in a successful relationship if you’ve never had an example of it?

      There seems to be this phase between, let’s say college and 35 years old. A phase where you become so consumed with your career or school or what not that you begin to neglect your personal life. If you aren’t one of the lucky ones who finds a sweetheart or gets married in the midst of this phase, then you are probably one of the ones who would just like their itch scratched every once in a while without attachment. A scratcher that is disposable. Are you catching my drift?

    There is a candy store. You tried this one piece of candy, only one of its kind, and you absolutely love it. It does for you what no other piece of candy has. It fulfills your taste, doesn’t get stuck in your teeth, no bad after taste, no color change on your tongue and it is even good for you. Unfortunately, it does not quench your curiosity. You still want other pieces of candy despite loving this one so much. So the candy poses the option to you that you can have this candy, one of a kind, for the rest of your life or have the option to dip and dab into any of the other candies that does not satisfy you in the same way that this one does, but presents a multitude of varieties. What is your decision?

       You know, I love the holidays. When I was younger, aside from the gifts, my favorite part about the holidays was the decorations. You like decorations too, I’m sure. So, let’s say that you like ornaments in particular. Out of all the ornaments, the different shapes and colors, you seem to always be drawn to the circle ones.  It’s just something about them. Every year, you put them up, they fall, break or tarnish, and every year, you buy more of the same ornaments. Stay with me. Have you ever thought about buying different ornaments? All ornaments aren’t the same. Neither are people. You keep dating the same type of people, something goes wrong, and you find yourself dating the same type of people again only to say that all men/women are the same. When ole faithful falls through, it’s time to try something new (hey, that rhymed!)

        Not every break-up is a good break-up. With that said, not every break-up is a bad break-up. Break ups do not always mean the end of all relationships. At the very least, a friendship can still exist. Depending on how and why ya’ll call a quits determines if you guys can possibly be friends.

        You know, I am real big on analogies. Consider this one. You own a home and your security system is currently down. A burglar gets in and ruins your happy home. Remove the fact that you can actually call the cops for invasion, robbery, burglary, theft and so forth. It is later revealed that a door or window was left open. Who is at fault?

Labor Day weekend is among us, so you know what that means? Cuffing season has commenced. For those who are schleep, cuffing season is when single gals and guys scout out people they are attracted to and, through a process of elimination, decide on one booty to keep them warm until summer breaks (or spring). There may be a few lucky ones that get to stay on the bus, but usually, the ride is over when the sun comes out. So for my single readers, I know you want to make the cut. Here are some simple things you can do to reserve your seat this season:

        Having a schedule and routine is all fine and dandy, but every single part of your life should not be predictable. Where is the excitement in that? With so much to do and explore, let’s try spicing up your sex life. Here are a few things and places you can try to get your adrenaline pumping and keep you love life thriving.

        The more you get to know a person, the more intrigued you become, granted that you like what you are finding out. You want to know more, spend more time with them and talking to them. Similarities and commonalities bring you two closer together and this person can potentially be a lover…unless they have already placed you in the friend zone.