You know, I am real big on analogies. Consider this one. You own a home and your security system is currently down. A burglar gets in and ruins your happy home. Remove the fact that you can actually call the cops for invasion, robbery, burglary, theft and so forth. It is later revealed that a door or window was left open. Who is at fault?
The person who gave access, that’s who. There are plenty of times within relationships when someone steps out. It is a terrible situation that we all hate, but who do you go after? It is the fault of the person who was cheated with that your home wasn’t secure or was easily accessible, or is it the person who cheated? Often times we go after the one who cheated with our loved one. We fight them, threaten them, totally dislike them and probably wish bad things on them like getting hit by a car. While our focused is on them, it needs to be redirected to the one you thought you were in a monogamous and faithful relationship with. They are the ones who stepped out, made it possible for someone else to come in and cheated. I am not saying what the other person did is excusable, but I am saying that it is not their responsibility to make sure you have a happy home.
Speaking of which, if cheating is an option then the home cannot possibly be as happy as you believe. Whatever the issues may be, even if it is an illness or what have you, it interrupts the stability of a healthy relationship and needs to be addressed. Make sure the lines of communication are always open between you and your partner and they can talk to you about anything, good or bad. Hopefully, this will allow them to address the problem before or instead of attempting to find a resolution elsewhere. A relationship will not always be a walk in the park. There will be various paths you can take, rocks you may stumble on, an occasional jogger who may through you off track and make you want to push or punch them, and even a big rain cloud that will cause a down pour eliminating your sunny day. Regardless of the hardships that you guys may experience, there will always be a rainbow at the end if you work together to solve the problems, stay on the same path and have an open line of communication. Remember, the problem is not outside of the house, look within your home and make sure you secure it.
Peace, love and lipstick,
SP
Speaking of which, if cheating is an option then the home cannot possibly be as happy as you believe. Whatever the issues may be, even if it is an illness or what have you, it interrupts the stability of a healthy relationship and needs to be addressed. Make sure the lines of communication are always open between you and your partner and they can talk to you about anything, good or bad. Hopefully, this will allow them to address the problem before or instead of attempting to find a resolution elsewhere. A relationship will not always be a walk in the park. There will be various paths you can take, rocks you may stumble on, an occasional jogger who may through you off track and make you want to push or punch them, and even a big rain cloud that will cause a down pour eliminating your sunny day. Regardless of the hardships that you guys may experience, there will always be a rainbow at the end if you work together to solve the problems, stay on the same path and have an open line of communication. Remember, the problem is not outside of the house, look within your home and make sure you secure it.
Peace, love and lipstick,
SP
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