Have you guys ever wondered how parents know how to be parents? I mean, we all know the basic things to do for a child. Clothe, feed, bathe, play sometimes, etc. What about other things like knowing not to forget your child in the grocery cart or knowing not to roll over on them while sleeping. Where does the patience come from? How do you know what decisions to make? Is it possible at all to be a great parent if you weren’t raised by one? Absolutely. You know what you want to provide for your child and how you want them to be cared for, so you do it. Is it possible to be in a successful relationship if you’ve never had an example of it?
Why not? I debated with a friend on this a while back. It made no sense to me at all. There are a lot of things in life that we don’t have examples of, but are charged to do. Being a good parent, being a good employee, hell, being a great friend. We are provided with the basic materials in life so that we are able to do almost anything we want. You may think that a relationship may not be comparable to some other things, but regardless, you have the basic understanding anyway to even succeed in a relationship. You know how to treat people nicely and how you want to be treated. You’ve played house since I don’t know what age and understand how to care for others by doing so. Your intuitions and gut feelings have never let you down when you knew you were going to get your butt whooped, so don’t doubt them now. You know how to observe people and find out what makes them tick so making another person happy shouldn’t be as challenging as some people may think.
Nothing is fool proof. I won’t say that because you haven’t had a great example that you will automatically succeed. I read a post where two brothers were raised in a house with an alcoholic dad. One grew to be an alcoholic while the other did not. When asked why they made the choice to or not to drink, they both referenced growing up with their father being an alcoholic. It is possible to not have a successful relationship because of examples you’ve had in your life, but you will always have all of the material to make it successful if you want.
Martin Luther King Jr. didn’t have an example of peaceful protests and equal rights prior to his launch, but he had an idea of what it should be. Just because you haven’t been exposed to a successful or perfect relationship, doesn’t mean that you don’t know how one should work. People are capable of far greater things than what is believed. Y’all may think I am going off topic, but to me this is greater than just a relationship. We are all capable of being better than our environment and successful in life in any aspect if we work hard to be such. We already have the tools within us and it is to our discretion how, when and where we use them. Success is defined by you and there is no reason we all can’t achieve it.
Go Make it Happen,
SP
Nothing is fool proof. I won’t say that because you haven’t had a great example that you will automatically succeed. I read a post where two brothers were raised in a house with an alcoholic dad. One grew to be an alcoholic while the other did not. When asked why they made the choice to or not to drink, they both referenced growing up with their father being an alcoholic. It is possible to not have a successful relationship because of examples you’ve had in your life, but you will always have all of the material to make it successful if you want.
Martin Luther King Jr. didn’t have an example of peaceful protests and equal rights prior to his launch, but he had an idea of what it should be. Just because you haven’t been exposed to a successful or perfect relationship, doesn’t mean that you don’t know how one should work. People are capable of far greater things than what is believed. Y’all may think I am going off topic, but to me this is greater than just a relationship. We are all capable of being better than our environment and successful in life in any aspect if we work hard to be such. We already have the tools within us and it is to our discretion how, when and where we use them. Success is defined by you and there is no reason we all can’t achieve it.
Go Make it Happen,
SP
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