There are things that can make or break a relationship. Technically, it is all up to the people in the relationship. What they will and will not tolerate. Some things are a bit more obvious. Because some people might stay with something I consider a deal breaker, I won’t name what some of those can be. Other things are just being petty or finding excuses. One excuse I hate to hear is long distance.
Some things in life pull people away from one another. Whether these reasons are good or bad, it happens. College, the military, careers, and even families are all valid reason why some people have to be separated for extended periods of time. Just because you are in another town, city or state, does this mean that your relationship has to be over? No, but it does mean that you two have to be really committed to making the relationship work.
I won’t lie; there will be people, places and things that will tempt you. You might become suspicious of your partner, read an article that says you are wasting your time, go to the club and be the only one leaving empty handed, or tempted in some other way. You may have people in your face who discourage long term dating and therefore encourage you not to do it. My opinion? That’s not good enough. We have things, people and places challenging us every day. Distance, any amount, should honestly increase your love and want for your significant other. If you are really in love and you really care, then stick it out. Do what needs to be done to make things work. I met this man from Paraguay whose wife is working in Africa. I asked how they made it work and he replied that they talk on the phone, Skyped and saw each other every three months. Miles apart, simply conversing was enough to sustain their relationship. Along with communication; trust, loyalty, and faithfulness all need to be established and maintained.
The only exception I can think of is when you are actually in love and when you only like someone. More effort would be put forth when your feelings are deeply involved. If you find yourself questioning if you should maintain a long distance relationship, then maybe your feelings aren’t as deep as you thought they were and it would probably be best to let the relationship go rather than to drag it out when you know what the end result will be. I also think it is noteworthy to add that distance is only living in two separate cities, towns, states or countries. It could be the time you guys spend a part period. A relationship can benefit greatly when every minute is not spent with each other.
This may seem hard, but when you are in love and you genuinely care for each other, anything is possible as long as it benefits the relationship and helps maintain a happy home. Some things are worth sacrificing. You just have to figure out what you are willing to give up.
Sincerely,
SP
****This photo was borrowed from http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Lighthouse_at_night,_Chania.jpg . Please click on the photo to be redirected to the site.
Some things in life pull people away from one another. Whether these reasons are good or bad, it happens. College, the military, careers, and even families are all valid reason why some people have to be separated for extended periods of time. Just because you are in another town, city or state, does this mean that your relationship has to be over? No, but it does mean that you two have to be really committed to making the relationship work.
I won’t lie; there will be people, places and things that will tempt you. You might become suspicious of your partner, read an article that says you are wasting your time, go to the club and be the only one leaving empty handed, or tempted in some other way. You may have people in your face who discourage long term dating and therefore encourage you not to do it. My opinion? That’s not good enough. We have things, people and places challenging us every day. Distance, any amount, should honestly increase your love and want for your significant other. If you are really in love and you really care, then stick it out. Do what needs to be done to make things work. I met this man from Paraguay whose wife is working in Africa. I asked how they made it work and he replied that they talk on the phone, Skyped and saw each other every three months. Miles apart, simply conversing was enough to sustain their relationship. Along with communication; trust, loyalty, and faithfulness all need to be established and maintained.
The only exception I can think of is when you are actually in love and when you only like someone. More effort would be put forth when your feelings are deeply involved. If you find yourself questioning if you should maintain a long distance relationship, then maybe your feelings aren’t as deep as you thought they were and it would probably be best to let the relationship go rather than to drag it out when you know what the end result will be. I also think it is noteworthy to add that distance is only living in two separate cities, towns, states or countries. It could be the time you guys spend a part period. A relationship can benefit greatly when every minute is not spent with each other.
This may seem hard, but when you are in love and you genuinely care for each other, anything is possible as long as it benefits the relationship and helps maintain a happy home. Some things are worth sacrificing. You just have to figure out what you are willing to give up.
Sincerely,
SP
****This photo was borrowed from http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Lighthouse_at_night,_Chania.jpg . Please click on the photo to be redirected to the site.
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