Everyone is different. For that reason, everyone has to be learned and adapted to. You have to learn their ways, tendencies, preferences, dislikes, habits and so forth. Not just so you can know them better, but to even decide if you want to be with them, around them, friends with them or whatever. What if someone doesn’t learn your ways? What if they only know you in some areas and not all? You teach them. Let’s talk about affection. You love to be affectionate and receive affection, but you aren’t receiving it. Then teach it.
There are some people out there who are not big on affection. They were taught different ways to express how they feel. Buying things, love taps, jokes or simply just giving you the time of day. I’m not saying that time and play fighting isn’t nice, it’s cute and greatly appreciated, but affection would be a bit better. The best way to begin to let someone know that you like affection is to give affection. It’s like respect, treat people how you would like to be treated. Give them lingering, soft hugs, massages, kisses on the neck, hand, and forehead, cuddle, run your finger through their hair or up and down their arm or leg. Little things are great to start with. By doing this, we want to hope that it will be reciprocated. If you have given subtle signs and have done things to them that you would like them to do to you and it doesn’t work, then it is time to get verbal. Tell them what you like. Go further and even tell them what you would like them to do TO you! This may even be seen as a turn on.
There are some people out there who are not big on affection. They were taught different ways to express how they feel. Buying things, love taps, jokes or simply just giving you the time of day. I’m not saying that time and play fighting isn’t nice, it’s cute and greatly appreciated, but affection would be a bit better. The best way to begin to let someone know that you like affection is to give affection. It’s like respect, treat people how you would like to be treated. Give them lingering, soft hugs, massages, kisses on the neck, hand, and forehead, cuddle, run your finger through their hair or up and down their arm or leg. Little things are great to start with. By doing this, we want to hope that it will be reciprocated. If you have given subtle signs and have done things to them that you would like them to do to you and it doesn’t work, then it is time to get verbal. Tell them what you like. Go further and even tell them what you would like them to do TO you! This may even be seen as a turn on.
I don’t advise throwing everything on them at once. Don’t hand them a list of what you want. No, take your time. Let them catch on and remember before you give them more. Hopefully, you are with someone who wants to cater to you anyway. This is just a suggestion of a way for them to cater to you. And if you are the one who doesn’t give affection, but want to start, just think of catering to your baby. Time, affection, appreciation (cards, flowers, candy, gifts, handmade things, significant tokens from dates or from their favorite place, cooking, etc) all go hand in hand and adds value to your relationship.
On the other side, you need to think about if you can stay with this person if they aren’t affectionate. Some people never catch on, don’t want to catch on and just do things differently. Is the lack of affection a deal breaker? Is that the only way you know that what you have is good? Some people can’t be changed and won’t be changed. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it is something for you to think about. If you really think that he or she needs to change in this area of the relationship and you can’t take it if they don’t, then maybe you’re the one who needs a change. Cater to yourself and find what you are looking for.
Sincerely,
SP
****These photos were borrowed from http://my.englishclub.com/profiles/blogs/the-power-of-sincere-affection and . Please click on the photos to redirected to the sites.
On the other side, you need to think about if you can stay with this person if they aren’t affectionate. Some people never catch on, don’t want to catch on and just do things differently. Is the lack of affection a deal breaker? Is that the only way you know that what you have is good? Some people can’t be changed and won’t be changed. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it is something for you to think about. If you really think that he or she needs to change in this area of the relationship and you can’t take it if they don’t, then maybe you’re the one who needs a change. Cater to yourself and find what you are looking for.
Sincerely,
SP
****These photos were borrowed from http://my.englishclub.com/profiles/blogs/the-power-of-sincere-affection and . Please click on the photos to redirected to the sites.
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