 Let’s sit down and have a little chat. Do you get jealous over little things? Check your love’s phones reading texts, looking at pictures and scrolling down the call log? Is it an issue when someone from their past contacts them? Do you always have to know their exact agenda? Do you pay close attention to background noise when you two talk on the phone? If you answered yes to any of these and do other things that you wouldn’t normally do, then please proceed to the security check point. You may be insecure. Wait, wait, wait. Before you jump down my throat, I know that sometimes situations call for you knowing your boos plans for the day and there may be a very good reason why the past needs to stay in the past, but really think about how you react during these times and what you would do if you ever found anything. Are you looking for something? You will find that this is not attractive and is a very big turn off. If you have to know every little thing about your girl or man then you might want to reconsider your relationship. No one should have to worry in a relationship or be unhappy. If you are, leave . It is always important to communicate as well. I can’t say it enough. If you suspect something, bring it to their attention in the most respectful way and believe what they tell you. A relationship without trust is not a relationship at all. If you two have trust issues, you have to try to work those out. While working on the issues, you should give each other the benefit of the doubt that all is well and that they are being faithful. | Another place you may want to turn is to yourself. Is there something you are unhappy about with yourself that makes you think your significant other may want to sneak around on you? No one is perfect, so don’t think that you have to be, but you should always remember that anyone can take your spot. Yes you have won and their heart is yours. You shouldn’t have to worry about someone else coming for your spot, but it only takes one slip up…..ok maybe a little more than one, but you get the point. And for that reason, you should always be on your game. Make sure you are doing what you have to do to make sure you keep your love. Do what you did to get them! Hair done, dressed nice, be considerate, attentive, listen, and keep everything in tip top shape. Life happens, so no one should be expecting to wake up to a model every day. That doesn’t mean that everyday has to be a down day either. Spice it up, keep the fire going and most importantly, have confidence that you are where they want to be. It is your most attractive feature so flaunt it proudly, you are perfectly imperfect and they love it! I am preaching to you guys about not being insecure, letting go of insecurities and staying on point, but I need to also address the point of not giving your girl or man a reason to feel that way. There is no need to be sneaky, hide things, lie, put your man or girl down in any way or whatever else you can do to make someone suspicious. You already know what makes them tick or what would make them suspicious so let’s just skip the arguments and interrogations by not doing those things. The summer is here and it’s time to hang out, chill and just have fun. Giving them reasons to suspect the worst or feel down about themselves ultimately just makes it worse for you. Don’t kill your vibe! All the best, SP |
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