So we have had three events that can cause something unexpected to pop up in nine months or so: Christmas, New Year’s and a polar vortex that caused dangerously low temperatures for half of the U.S. Not that unexpected things can’t happen on any other given day or event, but I felt the need to tackle this topic now.
When two (or more) are in the moment, not much is running through ones’ mind. Something that might slip is the thought of protection, STD’s, and babies. I mean, the feeling is so overwhelming. Spots are touched, hit, licked and bit! Juices flow, bodies are flipped and turned until the energy is gone and you’re both laid out thinking about what just happened or what needs to happen next.
When two (or more) are in the moment, not much is running through ones’ mind. Something that might slip is the thought of protection, STD’s, and babies. I mean, the feeling is so overwhelming. Spots are touched, hit, licked and bit! Juices flow, bodies are flipped and turned until the energy is gone and you’re both laid out thinking about what just happened or what needs to happen next.
Weeks or months later, things change. The female body expands, may stop bleeding, appetite gets bigger and it hits her. She is pregnant and she didn’t even purposely do so. So who is to blame? Within nine months, a child will form in another human’s body without permission and then enter this world to be cared by (hopefully) two people who did not plan it this way. Should the woman be held responsible because she didn’t use any form of female birth control and didn’t make the guy wear a condom? Should the male be the blame since he didn’t have a vasectomy and knowingly didn’t wear a condom? No, they both are to blame.
In this situation, no one’s fault is bigger than the other. If neither wanted a child then both should have taken precautions to prevent it from happening. What’s next? Abortion (dare I say) is an option, but is it the best? You can do adoption and give the baby to a happy family who will do their best at raising your child or you can step up and raise this beautiful unexpected surprise yourself. The child did not ask to be here and shouldn’t have to pay for your disregard. I am not saying that in all cases the parents have to raise the child and abortion and adoption are out of the picture. To each its own. What I am saying is that if the decision is made to bring a child into this world, a decision should be made to stop playing the blame game or trapped charades and just provide for that child the best way you know how. Blaming one another serves no justice. Hell, blame me! Now that it is out of the way, focus on the child and do what you need to do.
Cheers to safe sex!
SP
In this situation, no one’s fault is bigger than the other. If neither wanted a child then both should have taken precautions to prevent it from happening. What’s next? Abortion (dare I say) is an option, but is it the best? You can do adoption and give the baby to a happy family who will do their best at raising your child or you can step up and raise this beautiful unexpected surprise yourself. The child did not ask to be here and shouldn’t have to pay for your disregard. I am not saying that in all cases the parents have to raise the child and abortion and adoption are out of the picture. To each its own. What I am saying is that if the decision is made to bring a child into this world, a decision should be made to stop playing the blame game or trapped charades and just provide for that child the best way you know how. Blaming one another serves no justice. Hell, blame me! Now that it is out of the way, focus on the child and do what you need to do.
Cheers to safe sex!
SP
****This photo was borrowed from http://vapresspass.com/2013/06/05/expect-the-unexpected-by-marcia-zidle/ . Please click on the photo to be redirected to the site.
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