Me, Myself and I

Ok, so who’s celibate? Any hands? Who is just having a hard time finding anyone or anyone you think is worth what you have to offer? So what do you do when your body becomes hot and sensitive? When your hormones seem to be at its peak and the shower head becomes your best friend? I will tell you what you do, you masturbate!!

Wait, wait, wait! Don’t stop reading yet! Masturbating is not a bad thing like it has been made out to be. Masturbating is possibly the safest sex you could ever have and so very pleasurable. Besides the excitement, I’m sure there has to be some type of health benefit. I know when you have an orgasm you burn calories so hey, why not? I once read a poem by Mary B. Morrison (which, unfortunately I cannot recall the name of) where she basically said that before you ever let a man penetrate you (and you can use this vice versa), you should explore your own body. Now I thought she was crazy. It made great sense to me immediately, I just wasn’t happy with the fact that I had to touch myself. You know as children, we are taught to keep our hands out of our pants and other people’s pants for that matter. So when the idea of touching myself came up I was against it. Well, that notion soon changed. I thought more on it and I was like you know what, I should explore my own body before I let someone else explore it. How will I ever know what truly satisfies me if I don’t find out? How can I expect someone else to touch, taste, lick, stick or eat me if I am not willing to do it myself? And that’s exactly what I did. In 2007, I explored my body and have not turned back since! Self exploration comes in very handy when you are celibate. Just because you are choosing not to have sexual
relations with other people does not mean you lose the urge or don’t want to have any type of sexual enjoyment. Why wait when you can get what you want now?

According to Niels Lauersen and Steven Whitney, authors  of “It’s Your Body: A Woman’s Guide to Gynecology”, humans have sex for one or more of three reasons: reproduce, express feelings, or to just have fun and relax (Lauersen, Whitney, 474). Masturbation can do two of the three: express your feelings for yourself and bring about fun and relaxation.

A couple of facts that Lauersen and Whitney stated about masturbation were that no two women masturbate the same (Lauersen, Whitney, 504). This means that ladies have their own way of being satisfied and you cannot figure it out if you don’t explore yourself. Another fact is that ladies and men can obtain multiple orgasms through masturbation and it isn’t uncommon for ladies to have to have more than one orgasm to feel completely satisfied (Lauersen, Whitney, 505). Did you know that your sex organs can become enlarged from masturbation? Frequent masturbation can enlarge ladies labia minora (inner vaginal lips) over time and also the penis. The results from the penis could be seen faster though. His erect penis will become bigger day to day because of masturbation (Lauersen, Whitney, 19; 480).I know this may seem a little weird to some of you and you may be turned off by it but it can seriously be a beautiful thing. If you are interested in trying it for the first time, here are some tips:

• On a female, the most sensitive area will be the clitoris. This is where you may want to focus for the first time until you feel comfortable exploring other areas.

• A male’s most sensitive part is the corona (head) of the penis. I’m sure that will be a pleasurable place to start.

• You may feel more comfortable if you are alone and/or fantasizing about a person or place.

• It has been studied and reported by Lauersen and Whitney that a crucial factor in a woman producing an orgasm lies in clitoral stimulation (Lauersen, Whitney, 480). G-spot and a-spot are some other ones but this is the easiest.

• The more you play with yourself the better you will be able to recognize an orgasm and the easier it will be to have one (Lauersen, Whitney, 21).

• If you don’t want to do it alone, this is great for foreplay or teasing. Do this with your mate (if you have one) and get things heated up.

Remember that this is a safe method for having sex. Keep your  hands clean and sanitize anything you use or touch before and after  using/touching it. Don’t be afraid to touch yourself ladies or explore your  body. You have a temple and you should know what key opens every door. Besides,  who can love you better than yourself?

                                                                     Sincerely,
                                                                                S.P.


**this image come from Science Photo Library. click on picture for direct link.
Lauersen, Niels, and Steven Whitney. It’s Your Body: A Woman’s Guide to
  Gynecology. New York: The Berkley Publsihing Group, 1983. N. pag. Print.