The weather is beginning to break so, you know what that means? Cuffing season has come to an end! Yes, yes, yes, it was fun while it lasted, but it is time to get your bags and get the hell on…or is it? With so much going on today, cuffing season, side piece, boo thang, “my lil friend”, and all of the other code names for people you are involved with, I think it is very beneficial to correct the label on your relationship or obtain one.
You say labels and all of the fellas run. Slow down! Before you head for the hills, let’s eliminate the stigma that some may have associated with this term. Labels aren’t all bad and they do not all scream commitment. Labels simply help us to categorize what is going on in relationships we have with people. Think of relationships as cans. Now, remove the labels from those cans. How would you know what you are opening, what to expect or if it is something you want if you do not know what’s in the can? Do you have to eat what’s in the can regardless? No, it’s your choice, no commitment necessary but, it would surely help you to know how to prepare the food, treat the relationship, if you knew what was in the can.
Labels can be boyfriend/girlfriend, lady, wife, husband, man, boo, friend with benefits, sugar daddy/momma, side piece, fiancé, phone buddy, friend, boss, sibling, parent, and so on. These labels help you, and even others if necessary, identify what kind of relationship you have with a person, what you can expect from them and vice versa, and what your limits are. I say expect, but I want to make myself clear. There should be very limited expectations in a relationship. Expectations can often lead to disappointment. What I mean by expectations is knowing if this is mutually exclusive, monogamous, purely platonic, do you all go on dates, do you meet the family, friends or no one at all, can you call whenever you like, do you pay for yourself if you two go out and so forth.
While I believe that labels are helpful and essential to relationships, everyone does not need a label. There are some who maintain a clear understanding of what they have with another person without labeling the relationship. This may eventually become a problem with some, but it is not true for all. The bottom line is that those involved in the relationship need to have a clear understanding of what is going on between the two. This way, no toes are stepped on, no one’s part is up for grabs, and nothing is mislabeled even if it is unlabeled.
All the best,
SP
Labels can be boyfriend/girlfriend, lady, wife, husband, man, boo, friend with benefits, sugar daddy/momma, side piece, fiancé, phone buddy, friend, boss, sibling, parent, and so on. These labels help you, and even others if necessary, identify what kind of relationship you have with a person, what you can expect from them and vice versa, and what your limits are. I say expect, but I want to make myself clear. There should be very limited expectations in a relationship. Expectations can often lead to disappointment. What I mean by expectations is knowing if this is mutually exclusive, monogamous, purely platonic, do you all go on dates, do you meet the family, friends or no one at all, can you call whenever you like, do you pay for yourself if you two go out and so forth.
While I believe that labels are helpful and essential to relationships, everyone does not need a label. There are some who maintain a clear understanding of what they have with another person without labeling the relationship. This may eventually become a problem with some, but it is not true for all. The bottom line is that those involved in the relationship need to have a clear understanding of what is going on between the two. This way, no toes are stepped on, no one’s part is up for grabs, and nothing is mislabeled even if it is unlabeled.
All the best,
SP
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