Foreplay plays a big part in sex and, often times, it is the most fun. The kissing, touching, licking, sucking, fondling and all of the sensual attention matters. Role playing, game playing and the use of props, toys, oils and tasty toppings are just a few ideas that could be used. Subtle things could help too. Massages, baths and the likes could get the blood going as well.
Food is actually a good place to start and at times it can minimize the amount of time spent on foreplay because it causes natural arousal and sexual desire. I am talking about aphrodisiacs. According to Libido Increasing Foods, “Certain foods can, in addition to being healthy, have a direct effect on your sexual activity due to the effect that they have on stress levels, energy levels, chemical activity within the brain and also how they affect your hormones. It is even possible for some foods to literally increase blood flow to your genitalia!”
There are actually quite a few foods that are considered aphrodisiacs:
Chocolate- (natural chocolate, no additives) contains anandamide, a chemical that gives you a natural, psychoactive good feeling. Also contains phenylethylamine which releases dopamine in the brain's pleasure centers, peaking during an orgasm. It induces feelings of excitement and stimulates euphoria and attraction.
Oysters- The most known and common aphrodisiac, oysters have high levels of zinc which increases the production and release of testosterone leading to a higher sex drive and an increased libido.
Honey- A natural aphrodisiac that has various B vitamins and boron, causes a sex drive and orgasms in men and women.
Bananas- Filled with B vitamins, potassium and magnesium, bananas deliver a boost to your libido.
Basil- Some people say the smell of this herb is the actual aphrodisiac, while others believe the taste stimulates sexual desire and increases your heart rate. Increased heart rate leads to an increased flow of blood leading to a quicker arousal.
Champagne-Hitting the bloodstream quickly, champagne warmly intoxicates the body and actually has an aroma similar to a female’s pheromones. Those are the chemicals that act outside of her body that attracts and affects the receiving person.
The reason why I am bringing up the issue of foreplay and aphrodisiacs is because not everyone is into foreplay, but experience some difficulty in getting sex started or maintaining it. First off, let me mention that ladies love to be chased, approached and sought after. It makes them feel wanted and sexy. Well ladies, the men feel the same way. Sometimes, they don’t want to be the one to initiate sex and find it pleasing to have a woman take control or get it started. For those on either side who aren’t used to it, simple foreplay or a nice dinner/dessert can help push you in the right direction. Some foods that you can find on these sites make your nerve endings more sensitive, meaning when you are touched, kissed, licked, sucked and whatever else, you WILL have a spot and you will love it! Be open to trying new things and having fun! And don’t just show, tell!
Happy Sexing!
SP
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http://www.libido-increasing-food.com/aphrodisiac-foods.php
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/08/aphrodisiac-foods_n_1263124.html#s671690&title=Oysters
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/tips-moves/aphrodisiac-foods-0509#slide-1