 You know, in life there are rules. Some are written while others are unwritten. You have given rules and understood rules and implied rules and so on and so forth. With that being said, all rules are not meant to be broken and most are necessary to follow. You can’t win the game by half assing and cutting corners. You may get away with cheating, but you even have to adhere to those rules. My point is, learn the rules to the game and play it right. I know what you’re thinking. SP is condoning cheating? NOT AT ALL!! I am totally against cheating in all shapes, forms and fashions. Aside from that, I am not against playing the field while single. I just think that if you’re going to play the game, play it right. Rule 1: Be honest. You do not have a commitment to anyone at this point. You are having fun and exploring your options. Come out flat and let your partners know you do not want anything serious right now and that you are talking to other people. You should also let them know, if and when sex occurs, if you are having sex with your other partners. Let’s just be smart about this. Rule 2: Keep your relationships separate. There is no need to share names or talk about what you do with the other people you are talking to. What for? Again, no commitment means no obligation to unveil unnecessary information. Rule 3: Play your role. So there are some people who get mad because someone they were talking to got into a relationship with someone else or plays them when they thought they were a little more serious than what they initially were. Then you have some who can’t figure out why the other fell hard for them and is starting to act like they are in a relationship. If you play your role, you won’t have to worry about this. Do not overdo your part. Spending too much time, arguing (like what are you arguing about), being overly sensitive and attentive and just acting like a boyfriend or girlfriend would. You’re sending mixed signals and it’s going to take you where you don’t want to go. | Rule 4: Communicate. Like with any relationship, communication is important. You have nothing to hide, lie about or a reason to lead someone on. Be upfront. If you become more serious with someone else, end up expecting a baby or something (STD’s/HIV) just let the other person (people) know. Don’t just pop out the blue with something and expect the other person to a) be cool about it or b) not find out. Rule5: Stay out of your feelings. Look, don’t mess up your adventure by getting your feelings involved. Have thick skin! You may get told something you don’t like, see or hear something you don’t like. Appreciate the honesty and keep it moving. Your feelings will only mess things up, unless they are mutual, and then you will be the one stuck because you are in it by yourself. Rule 6: Have fun. This is a time that should be stress free and hopefully helps you find out what you want when you finally decide to be in a committed relationship. If you’re giving stress or someone is stressing you out then it is time to move on because someone went left when you guys were supposed to be going right. Just chill out and live. Adhering to these rules should keep you in the game. Playing the field shouldn’t be hard so don’t make it. There is no need to complicate anything that is simple. It’s the summer time so hopefully this will help someone out and make this season more enjoyable. Tata for now! Sincerely, SP 
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