It is still the beginning of the new year and there are new decisions that need to be made and bad habits that need to be let go of. One thing I want to try to do is let some things go. I don’t necessarily have to forget nor do I have to make poor judgment because I have decided to let some thing(s) fall to the waist line. Some of you can stand to let some things go as well.
There are a few people in the world who have made decisions to be with someone knowing what that person’s past holds. There are people who have been cheaters, hoes, prostitutes, abusive, alcoholics, drug addicts, are drop outs, unemployed, have three baby mothers, and the list goes on. Some of those people are making an effort to be better than they once were and they want to be better with you by their side. These may be some tough things to handle. There may be a fear of a relapse or things falling on your shoulders because you have to pick up someone else’s responsibilities. I am sure those people are aware of their faults and have been facing them ever since they have admitted to them. I also believe they may have a constant battle with some of these things as they weigh down on their conscious and they try to overcome them. Family and friends may even perpetuate the situation making sure that person won’t forget. The last thing they need is the added headache from you.
You decided to be with or stay with this cheater, addict, drop out or unemployed person. You had the choice to walk away once you found everything out. There is no need to throw it in their face when you get the chance. There is no need to bring it back up in arguments. Cut out the searching and counting and monitoring. Instead, let it go. Trust them. There was a reason why you decided to stay. I am not one to tell another soul when to leave. I know my limits and you should establish yours. I will only encourage the end of a relationship when it gets abusive or affects your health. So if you have acknowledged this person’s flaws, accepted them, said you will deal with it and make it work, then do it. There is no point in dwelling over something you cannot fix or change. Instead, help that person to be better. Give them a reason to want to improve themselves or change their ways. You cannot hold on to another person past and expect things to work out in the future. I am not telling you to continue on with disregard. No, be smart about your decisions, but understand what you have signed up for. Some things need to be let go of and if you can’t let it go then let it go! The past is the past. It cannot be undone. Work on making a better future.
All the best,
SP
You decided to be with or stay with this cheater, addict, drop out or unemployed person. You had the choice to walk away once you found everything out. There is no need to throw it in their face when you get the chance. There is no need to bring it back up in arguments. Cut out the searching and counting and monitoring. Instead, let it go. Trust them. There was a reason why you decided to stay. I am not one to tell another soul when to leave. I know my limits and you should establish yours. I will only encourage the end of a relationship when it gets abusive or affects your health. So if you have acknowledged this person’s flaws, accepted them, said you will deal with it and make it work, then do it. There is no point in dwelling over something you cannot fix or change. Instead, help that person to be better. Give them a reason to want to improve themselves or change their ways. You cannot hold on to another person past and expect things to work out in the future. I am not telling you to continue on with disregard. No, be smart about your decisions, but understand what you have signed up for. Some things need to be let go of and if you can’t let it go then let it go! The past is the past. It cannot be undone. Work on making a better future.
All the best,
SP
****These photos were borrowed from http://www.sodahead.com/fun/would-date-someone-that-had-a-bad-past-but-now-they-are-clean-and-healthy/question-1227253/?link=ibaf&q=&esrc=s and http://zachward.com/2010/11/ive-got-your-back/ respectively. Please click on the photos to be redirected to the site.
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