Scenario: A young lady and her friends are having lunch at a nice eatery downtown. While eating, the young lady notices a guy eyeing her. She pays him no mind as she tries to give more attention to her friend who is conversing with her. Engaged in conversation, the guy approaches the young lady, excuses himself and proceeds to compliment the lady he is interested in. She thanks him and he goes forth and asks for her number so that maybe they can get up one day. Let’s pause this right here. We can look at this situation in two ways:
1) This guy sees that this young lady is obviously not paying him any attention and is more interested in her friend yet, he still approaches her while she is in the middle of a conversation. He’s so rude. Why is he so thirsty?
2) This guy sees something that he is interested in and, instead of letting this moment slip away, he approaches her in hopes of seeing her again.
There are so many of us who are quick to call someone thirsty. He held the door open and I wasn’t even there yet. She started following me on insta and is spamming my notifications. He is trying to get at me around all of these people. She always tries to hold a conversation when I see her, even when I’m with my friends. I can’t think of any more dumb scenarios that people blow out of proportion, but you get the point. Every time someone tries to get your attention or attempts to take things a step further, it doesn’t mean they are thirsty. They could simply be interested in you and are either trying to take their shot, giving you a shot to take or simply letting you know that they are interested.
I do know that there are some instances where people do go overboard and just don’t get the hint or went about getting your attention the wrong way. You have repeat offenders who are relentless and take the phrase “never give up” to heart or those who stumble over their words very often and try to make up for the last time the next time they see you or those who come on too strong and on to more than one person within a tight time frame. While trying to correct their actions can be seen as offensive and may make that person act out in the wrong place at the wrong time, you can’t assume that everyone who approaches you thereafter is the same. To some of their defenses, they may just have horrible dating skills. Others may just get straight to it. No point in chasing a shot, right?
This summer, or any season for that matter, take the time to actually let an individual capture your attention and see where it goes. Consider the fact the polite gestures and chivalry could possibly be just that and not a dry mouth begging for your juices. Seriously, who really likes the overly aggressive people whose approach is equivalent to how they would approach anyone on the street? It’s understandable if you are not interested, you won’t like them all, but remember that second chances aren’t always guaranteed so sometimes a person has to strike while the iron is hot, or at least hint to you that you should strike.
Drink up,
SP
2) This guy sees something that he is interested in and, instead of letting this moment slip away, he approaches her in hopes of seeing her again.
There are so many of us who are quick to call someone thirsty. He held the door open and I wasn’t even there yet. She started following me on insta and is spamming my notifications. He is trying to get at me around all of these people. She always tries to hold a conversation when I see her, even when I’m with my friends. I can’t think of any more dumb scenarios that people blow out of proportion, but you get the point. Every time someone tries to get your attention or attempts to take things a step further, it doesn’t mean they are thirsty. They could simply be interested in you and are either trying to take their shot, giving you a shot to take or simply letting you know that they are interested.
I do know that there are some instances where people do go overboard and just don’t get the hint or went about getting your attention the wrong way. You have repeat offenders who are relentless and take the phrase “never give up” to heart or those who stumble over their words very often and try to make up for the last time the next time they see you or those who come on too strong and on to more than one person within a tight time frame. While trying to correct their actions can be seen as offensive and may make that person act out in the wrong place at the wrong time, you can’t assume that everyone who approaches you thereafter is the same. To some of their defenses, they may just have horrible dating skills. Others may just get straight to it. No point in chasing a shot, right?
This summer, or any season for that matter, take the time to actually let an individual capture your attention and see where it goes. Consider the fact the polite gestures and chivalry could possibly be just that and not a dry mouth begging for your juices. Seriously, who really likes the overly aggressive people whose approach is equivalent to how they would approach anyone on the street? It’s understandable if you are not interested, you won’t like them all, but remember that second chances aren’t always guaranteed so sometimes a person has to strike while the iron is hot, or at least hint to you that you should strike.
Drink up,
SP
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